Threesome Memoirs – The Break Up

breaking upRyan: So finally, a little bit of drama. For anyone who likes to stay clear of drama this next threesome memoir may not be for you.  If you do not enjoy hot irons flying across the room, shoes being thrown at faces, and fist fights on the front lawn, you may want to leave this blog now. This memoir is about our last experience with a girl we have spent almost a year fucking, and then the break up.  You know, the sex, the good times, the bad times, the tears, the crying, the broken hearts, the drama, and everything else that comes along with adding a new person to your relationship.

And maybe one day we will have all of the above for you to wet your chops and read through, but unfortunately, much like all of our experiences, we just do not attract drama.   I lied in the intro. That was my attention grabber.  That will probably be the most exciting thing you’ll read in this blog today.  Everything we do is talked through and thought out.  Since there is no emotional attachment to the other girl, when one of us decides we no longer want to spend time with her, we no longer invite her over.   As far as friendships or relationships outside of the bedroom go, Nessa and I have never had real friendships with anyone we’ve dealt with.

Nessa:  I’m not a hit-it-and-quit-it kind of person. At least I wasn’t in the beginning. My feelings changed from one female to the next and with each subsequent experience. At first, I really wanted a friendship. I wanted to get to know her as a person. I wanted to know things about her, not just what she looked between her legs. I wanted her to be curious about me, not just see me as someone she ate out every other Friday.  I wanted a friend, someone that I could talk to and hang out with with our clothes on. I thought I wouldn’t feel comfortable with Ryan not accepting the the third. I wanted her to accept us as a couple, not just me accepting her for a threesome. I wanted us all to get along. Once we realized that because we were a couple, no single female really saw a future in a relationship with us (which is correct), we became more of a side thing in her life.  There are women who enjoy the thrill of joining a couple, but while single and playing the field, they possibly had more serious dates that took precedent.  Even though I am okay with this, I decided that a friendship wasn’t really worth it and became the hit-it-and-quit it person I didn’t want to be. I did want any girl we played with to be polite as a person. I did want her to be freaky in bed (and submissive). And I did want her to be honest, unattached, and to take care of her body, etc. It was a combination of things that could make or break a threesome relationship. Maybe it was a combination of expecting too much and not communicating these things to our threesome partners.

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V’s Wet Inbox – Cum On My Face

cum on her faceV, I am newly married and found your blog a few months ago. I love your experiences, even though I don’t think I could ever have a threesome. That has nothing to do with my question though. I am 19 and pregnant. Ever since I got pregnant my husband refuses to cum in me. I’ve asked him in every way I could think of and he says, ‘I already put one in the oven.” I am sure that’s just his excuse, because the alternative to him cumming in me is pulling out and cumming on my face. I am trying not to take it personal, but I just feel so disrespected when he does this to me. I mean, maybe a few times a month or something, but not every night. I feel like he is trying to live out his porn star fantasies and I am his real doll. Am I wrong for feeling disrespected and is there any way to take a facial and feel good about yourself?

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Q&A – Open Marriage / Relationship

Open MarriageOn Friday night my husband asked for an open marriage. He says that before he met me he was in a 6 year relationship (even though previously he denied that it was an actual relationship), and then a week later he met me and then we got married 2 years later.

We have only been married since March.

So his reason for wanting an open marriage is that he never got to play the field, so to speak.

He says that it’s good for me as I can sleep with women again, as prior to us meeting I had only been with women for a number of years, but with these new arrangements I am not allowed to sleep with men. Apparently if there is something I can get from sleeping with men I should be able to get it from him.  So why can’t he get what he wants from a woman from me? Well he said that because it’s not something missing from our relationship it’s just that he never got to do it.

The rules he set down were:
No sleepovers
Always use protection
We stop if anyone doesn’t feel comfortable with it anymore
No being out past 10pm
No partners in our house
No telling people we know 
No men for me
Only sex no emotional attachments
People you see must know you’re in an open marriage

I’m not too sure how I feel about it, I did say yes on Saturday after he kept asking what I thought, and to be honest I do miss being with women but I don’t want to actually sleep with any while I’m with my husband.

He already has some women lined up that he has been chatting to and he might even be hooking up with one next weekend.

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Ray Rice, TMZ, NFL, General Public, Shame On Us

This blog has now been updated with a statement from Janay Rice, Ray Rice’s wife, the same person in the video getting knocked out.

I woke up this morning feeling like I had a horrible nightmare, feeling like I’m mourning the death of my closest friend.  But to have to accept the fact that it’s reality is a nightmare in itself. No one knows the pain that [the] media & unwanted options from the public has caused my family. To make us relive a moment in our lives that we regret every day is a horrible thing. To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his ass [off] for all his life just to gain ratings is horrific.

THIS IS OUR LIFE! What don’t you all get. If your intentions were to hurt us, embarrass us, make us feel alone, take all happiness away, you’ve succeeded on so many levels. Just know we will continue to grow & show the world what real love is! Ravensnation we love you!”

TMZ doesn’t care.  They got ratings.  The news doesn’t care. They got ratings.  The NFL doesn’t care.  They only suspended Ray Rice for 2 games and  currently let other players play the season while charges are pending (that do not have TMZ videos out).  Ray Rice has nothing pending and is already in the counseling he agreed to for this situation because he was a first time offender. The people didn’t care.  This was barely mentioned in February when it actually happened and the millions that tweeted yesterday, reacted because they saw a viral video and it was #trending.  Who does care?  Janay and Ray Rice. The two people in the video that have made amends and worked out their problems.  It’s okay the world has decided to judge Ray Rice, because what he did was wrong, but to punish him again (which really punishes his wife and daughter as well) just because TMZ releases a video in an attempt to promote their sleazy website.  Pathetic.  Shame on US.

Ray Rice, TMZ, NFL, General Public.

In that order.

Above is the entire video that has been spreading all over the internet since this morning. This is not the first video released, as the original elevator footage was released prior to his hearing on May 29, 2014. That footage showed Ray Rice drag his unconscious wife out of the elevator and move away from her as security approached him.  He never denied hitting her and most of us assumed what went on in the elevator prior to him dragging her out unconscious, resembled the Jay Z and Solange video.  Any man leaving a woman unconscious is a piece of shit.  We expected him to be dealt with and punished accordingly.

Below is a link that shows each arrest in the NFL since 2000.  What happened before 2000?  Don’t worry about it, because TMZ won’t have that footage online so no one will ever really care.

NFL Arrest Record

After the document loads, hit CTRL F, put term domestic violence in the popup box, and be prepared to hit next a whole lot. Star wide receiver Dez Bryant is in there for beating up his own mother.  Yes, he beat up his own mother.  This is a big problem in the NFL, and because a video was released doesn’t make it worse. Do we really need a video to sympathize with domestic violence?

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Q&A: To Ryan, What If Your Wife Wanted To Be With Men?

cheatingHi,

I just joined and read your profile and I am happy about how you are comfortable with your wife being with other women and that you are committed to being only with her. Has it ever come up with her being with other men, and if it did/did not, how would you react?

My ex-wife wanted to have an open marriage in which she could be with men or women, and encourage me to seek out other women. We had a 1 year old son at the time and I profusely said no, despite the tempting offer that I could mess around with other women. She blatantly went against me and dated other men and would tell me how she was ready to fuck them and do many things with them that she wouldn’t do with me. It ensued and eventually led to me filing for divorce on the grounds of infidelity to me after 5 episodes of her fucking other guys and still wanting to maintain a marriage to me. Many people have told me, well if she did it why didn’t you? Well, I’m a one woman guy, and that is part of the marriage bond, is it not? Your wife fucks other women, but you are present….. If you were not present, would you feel as though it was a betrayal against you since she feels equally the same about men and women? Does she date, love, and fuck women outside of your marriage? Why don’t you seek out the opportunity to be with other women- is it your nature not to? If so, why have you both agreed that she can? Help me understand, just seeking some peace with my own decision to divorce my wife since she was with other men, when really she could have been with other women as well (maybe i wouldn’t have felt betrayed?

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