Q&A: My Wife Is Self Conscious About Her Body

beautifulHey guys, my wife of 5 years has always been very self conscious about her body even though she is a very good looking woman.  After the birth of our 2nd child 4 months ago she has gotten much worse. She has lost almost all of the weight from the pregnancy already but reminds me at least once a day that she weighs over 30 lbs more than when we met. She also now has a second scar from a C-section. She has been complaining about the first one since the birth of our first child so I can’t see that getting any better. Whenever the subject of her weight or scars come up I tell her that she looks great but she doesn’t believe me. She says things like ‘you have to say that because you’re my husband’ and other times just doesn’t understand why I’m attracted to her. She gets uncomfortable when I see her naked and prefers to keep some of her clothes on when we are intimate.

For years we have had sex 2 or 3 times a month which is less than I would like but I’ve come of accept it as an ok amount for us.  Since the birth of our 2nd child 4 months ago, we’ve only had sex once. Whenever I try she tells me shes just not feeling sexy.

More sex would be awesome but this question isn’t just about that, I really want her to be happy with herself and I don’t know how to make her feel attractive or sexy. Any insight or advice would be appreciated.

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