The Psychology And Truth Magnum Condoms.

Just because you see him packing the gold wrapper doesn’t mean he is packing the golden rod.  


If by the time this blog comes out and I a missing, just know the illuminati of average sized men that all buy Magnum condoms got me.  

When Magnum condoms were first introduced to the world, I was young and told myself, “So yea, pretty much I will never have the need for those.”  Although I hadn’t had sex, I did buy a condom from a dispenser once and tried it on just to see what it was like.  Truthfully, this was probably the first time I realized I had a normal penis and told myself, “Hey, my penis must be normal because this fits fine.”  I just assumed the gold wrapper was for those chosen few.  And remember, in the 90s, all condoms came in silver or white wrappers. 

Years later, horny and wanting to masturbate differently, I went to the store and figured I would masturbate with a condom on just to see what it felt like to cum in one. As previously stated, I had tried one on, but didn’t have the perverted mindset to think of enjoying it back then. I was still a virgin so it felt kinky to me, almost like it would be a step closer to sex. At the same time, I could see how it felt to cum inside a condom while I was wearing, and how it felt afterwards if I kept stroking using the cum as lube (it felt great).  Nervously I grabbed the Magnum pack and palmed it so no one could see.  As I stood in line, I noticed the lady in front of me blushed a bit.  My heart was racing and I felt like I was announcing to everyone around my actual dick size. As it was my turn to be rung up, the cashier also blushed and had a big smile on her face.  I consider myself a pretty realistic person, not someone who sees false reactions based off how I feel.  I am a people watcher.  And I am telling you, the women that saw the box back in those days had the same exact assumption I had, if you had the Magnum, you were packing a huge dick.


Oh yea, did I mention that the box was all black with gold writing and a huge XL on it?  And when you take the condom out, it had the most bling I had ever seen in my life.  A solid gold condom!  It was almost as if this was the new way to brag to the world.  A “I’m the man” type vibe.  Someone at Trojan got a huge raise and came up with the most brilliant marketing plan the industry had ever seen.  

The hamster wheels turning at Trojan:  “You mean, you can sell men condoms that advertise to the world that he is bigger than MOST MEN…. and MOST MEN will buy the condom for that exact reason?   Well, first things first, let’s make sure this thing is slightly bigger in some places, but still stays nice and snug on MOST MEN.”

When I got home and thought to myself, “Well, this is what it is going to be like sticking my dick inside of a clown balloon……here goes nothing.”  I was shocked to find out, that this thing almost felt snugger than the cheap vending machine condom I grabbed out of a truck stop bathroom years ago.  I sat there looking at this condom on my dick like, “Wait, what, how can this be?”

I grabbed the box again because I had to read the label one more time.  Yup, it had XL written in huge gold letters on the front.  I said to myself again, “Guess what boys, your old pal Ryan is packing a hog in his pants!”  I have never purchased another Condom brand since, why would I?  If I don’t buy a Magnum I am announcing to everyone around me that I am average.  Who the hell wants to be average?  If I buy the Magnum, I can humble brag as if I am packing the hogoso, knowing I am still protected the same.  If there are differences, I can’t tell.  Even if you roll out the condom, the bottom has a rubber roll that looks like there is more condom left.  And after you cum and start getting flaccid, the condom sags off the head of your penis, filled with semen.  It feels just as snug, if not more snug.  In my experience, and in my opinion, this was more of a great marketing plan to lead women on to believe, the Magnum means he is packing.  And men to believe, if you are buying this, your dick is huge.  If you accidentally let her see the Magnum, it may spark enough curiosity to get her into the bedroom.  It wouldn’t be the first time a man brags or lies about his piece to get a piece, or for a company to target and make money off peoples insecurities.  

Below is an article regarding the actual size difference of Magnum condoms compared to the normal.  

Magnum condoms, and other condoms marketed as larger than your average rubber ― have huge appeal. 

Between 2001 and 2010, Magnum sales grew over 14 percent. By the start of this decade, Magnums made up 18.8 percent of overall condom sales in the U.S. (not including Wal-Mart).

You have to wonder, though: Are there really that many well-endowed dudes who need to go big when it comes to protection? Are average-sized men buying them for an ego boost? And how much larger are they than regular condoms?

Below, the answers to those questions and more. 

What size does your penis have to be to fit into a Magnum condom? 

Magnum condoms are slightly larger than the standard Trojan condom. According to Condom Depot, Magnums measure 8.12 inches long with a width of 2.12 inches. By comparison, Trojan’s standard ENZ condom measures 7.62 inches long and 2 inches wide. 

Then, there’s Magnum’s even longer big brother, the Magnum XL, which measures 8.37 inches long and 2 inches wide. 

Which one is the best fit for you? The only way to find out is to sample a variety of condoms on your own, said Stephanie Berez, the group brand manager for Trojan. (By “on your own,” we mean while masturbating; it’s not a good idea to try out a new, possibly too large or small condom with a partner.) 

“The Magnum consumer generally prefers larger condoms for comfort, but it’s really about finding the condom that’s right for you,” Berez told HuffPost. “You want the most satisfying experience for you and your partner.”

How will I know if a condom is the right fit? 

According to San Francisco-based sex therapist Keeley Rankin, a properly fitting condom will feel snug, but not too tight, and will roll all the way down the shaft. 

“You want it to feel comfortable in the fit as well as pleasurable in the sensations,” she told HuffPost. “It is best to try out different styles and types. I often recommend getting a sampler pack from Lucky Bloke or Condom Depot. Each manufacturer has a slightly different take and will feel different.” 

Will your partner really care whether or not you’re a Magnum man?

Sure, there are some size queens out there who prefer men on the larger side, but you should never feel like you “need” a Magnum-sized member just to impress someone in bed. 

“Not everyone demands a large size, and some people actually prefer smaller penises,” Rankin said. “If you are smaller than average, you are a poor sexual fit for a size queen ― and if you’re larger than average with a partner who doesn’t enjoy this sensation, you two are also a bad fit.”

“It’s good to know their preference sooner than later,” Rankin added. “Your condom choice and size is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about.”    Source: RSS Feed Huffingtonpost

The Average Time Sex Lasts (How Long Do You Last?)

In middle school and high school the young folks sit around the locker room (or wherever it is your group of friends hung out and socialized) and talk about how long they lasted during sex with their girlfriends or pick on their friend who’s ex-girlfriend leaked the info regarding him only lasting a few minutes.  This type of talk is common place among the fellas, especially when their bodies are first introduced to large doses of testosterone called puberty.  Come to find out, in high school a lot of the boys around the locker room were full of shit.  I can still remember all the advice about how they will count sheep or go over their favorite baseball team’s roster to keep their mind off having an orgasm.  If they only knew that the chances of their girlfriend being in the 30% of women that can orgasm purely from penetration (in high school this statistic is probably 1% because none of the boys knew what the hell they were doing anyway), they’d enjoy themselves much more.  Or if they knew on average most men only last about 7 minutes before having an orgasm, they wouldn’t put so much pressure on themselves.    

It’s not exactly the most romantic statistic: Almost half of all men finish sex within two minutes, reports the New Republic by way of Dr. Harry Fisch‘s new book, The New Naked: The Ultimate Sex Education for Grown-Ups.

In an excerpt published on Nerve, Fisch notes that his patients are typically fixed on what the normal frequency of sex should be, but that quality — and therefore duration — should be of equal concern. He trots out statistics from previous sex studies to that end: that the length of the average sex act is 7.3 minutes, but an “astonishing” 43% of such acts are completed within 2 minutes.

This isn’t exactly breaking news. Alfred Kinsey determined decades ago that the majority of men ejaculated in 2 minutes or less. (Interestingly enough, a sex therapist recently defined intercourse lasting fewer than 2 minutes as premature ejaculation to the Daily Mail.)

But the New Republic points out that men, not women, are probably more likely to be most bothered by the figure. A 2004 study found that men reported a significantly longer ideal duration of intercourse than did women; both sexes had similar ideas about the ideal foreplay length.

So what’s a guy to do, other than get over it? A Swedish study offers one interesting course of action: Researchers had men who couldn’t make it more than a minute complete 12 weeks of pelvic floor exercises; their average ejaculation time rose nearly five-fold, from 31.7 seconds to 146.2 seconds, reports UPI.  Source: USAToday 

You’d be surprised if they did a study on how women actually prefer sex to be about 7 minutes.  Taking advice from a bunch of kids in a locker room on the idea of what good sex is, is never a good idea.  Ask your woman how long she would prefer you to last, so she is happy and comfortable.  It’s not how long you last, it’s how happy you and your partner are.  Some women (the 70% that can’t orgasm through penetration) are happy just seeing you pleased by their bodies, and if they can’t orgasm themselves through intercourse, the faster you cum, the better.

good sex good sex 

10 Things They Teach You At Blow Job School

Ever wonder what goes down behind closed doors at blow job workshops? Wonder no more! 

1. Start slow. 

"It’s fun to start soft. Let your partner get hard in your mouth, without any motion. Just let them experience the warmth of your breath and wetness of your tongue then gently begin to suck. Anticipation will make your partner even hotter.” ― Rebekah Beneteau, a sex, kink and intimacy coach and co-host of the webinar “The Joy of Oral: Make Your Next Mouthful Matter”

2. Don’t shy away from lube.

“People often think that their own saliva will be enough lubrication to get the job done. It’s actually best to add a bit of lube to get started: either water-based or silicone. After a few minutes, you may build up enough of your own juices to keep the action going. Sucking on a hard, sugar-free candy can also help you build up saliva.” ― Melissa Jones, a sexologist and executive director of the Sexology Institute and Boutique in San Antonio, Texas

3. Get handsy. 

“Remember: A good blow job is 50 percent hands. Using your hands, with even pressure and friction in concert with your mouth, does more than what your mouth can do on its own. It can make or break a blow job experience.” ― Elle Chase, a sex educator and author of Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life

4. Ask questions. 

“Ask questions before you start and even during if you aren’t sure he’s having a good time. Every man is different. They don’t all like the same thing. Don’t ask broad questions like ‘Is this good?’ Instead, ask yes or no questions that give you concrete information, like, ‘Would you like it faster?’” ― Trevor Jones, a sex, kink and intimacy coach and co-host of the webinar “The Joy of Oral: Make Your Next Mouthful Matter”

5. Work with the curve and angle of your partner’s penis.

“Deep throating isn’t for everyone, but if it is something you want to do, having your mouth and throat match the angle of your partner’s penis can help. If they are curved or angled upward for instance, being on your knees below them would not work as well because their penis would be more likely to hit the roof of your mouth than go smoothly down your throat. In that case, have them lie down on a bed, kneel next to them facing their feet, and lean down until you’re comfortable. From there, open your throat like you would for a yawn ― now your partner’s penis can slide down your throat at a more comfortable and natural angle.” ― Amory Jane, a sex educator and education coordinator at She Bop, a sex toy boutique in Portland, Oregon 

6. Give him your undivided attention.

“Give him your attention, not his penis. Let him know you desire his pleasure and satisfaction by giving frequent eye contact, saying his name, asking him how he likes it or if he wants anything special. Eye contact also allows you to read his body language, to see how he responds to different techniques.” ― Melissa Jones 

7. Don’t forget “the boys.” 

“To give a successful blow job, you have to pay attention to his balls. Go back and forth, popping each one into your mouth and going back every now and again to lick the whole sack area. I encourage starting your blow job here, actually; spending a bit of time with ‘the boys’ helps boost his arousal before you start bobbing ― the part where you’re most likely hurting your jaw.” ― Sasha Rene, founder of the Blow By Blow workshop in San Diego, California 

8. Be in the moment.

“You’re putting your partner’s most coveted body part in your mouth and between your teeth ― that takes an enormous amount of trust. Savor the experience. Show your partner how much you recognize this by treating their blow job with enthusiasm, focused attention and high regard.” ― Elle Chase

9. Talk with your mouth full.

"You are not at the dinner table, talk with your mouth full!   And even if you are at the dinner table (or under it), talk with your mouth full!  Nothing turns a man on more than hearing a woman trying to talk dirty, moaning, or being as audible as possible while giving him a blow job.  Let him close his eyes and listen to the soundtrack of a great blow job." ― Nessa from

10. Swallow.

"Please.― Every guy ever

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Parents, Don’t Forget Anal Sex When Having ‘The Talk’ With Your Children

I hate to “butt” into your discussion about the birds and the bees, but it’s time to start including anal sex in “the talk.”

Discussing sex with any teenager can be uncomfortable for all parties involved. My mother started talking to me about sex at the first sight of facial hair growing on my chin. I remember how dreadfully I wanted to crawl out of my skin; in retrospect, I’m sure she felt the same way. Throughout our discussion, she told me about how the penis is inserted inside of the vagina, how one drop of male ejaculation can impregnate a woman, and about the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases/infections. Our talk about the birds and the bees was largely based on the same heteronormative methods most parents guilelessly follow, even today.

However, regardless of one’s sexual orientation or gender identity, every person has an anus — well, almost everyone has an anus, according to NBC News — and can participate in anal sex. But like all forms of intercourse, anal sex comes with a risk, perhaps the greatest risks in comparison to all other sexual practices. Some of these risks include:

Increased risk of exposure to sexually transmitted diseases or infection

“Penetration can tear the tissue inside the anus, allowing bacteria and viruses to enter the bloodstream” WebMD says. Many sexually transmitted diseases and infections come from bodily fluids; tears in the anus increases the chance of bodily fluids entering through the tears and directly into the bloodstream.

Risk of permanently damaging the anus with personal hygiene upkeep

According to Dr. K is Jeffrey D. Klausner, “Douching could have some serious negative effects. First, frequent douching may compromise the natural protective fluids and lining in your anus.” When the body stops producing these fluids, it becomes more prone to tears and infections, which will make passing stool — or even sitting —extremely uncomfortable. Also, some of these instruments are not rectum friendly and will cause ulcers.

Risk of weakening the anal sphincter

“Repetitive anal sex may lead to weakening of the anal sphincter, making it difficult to hold in feces until you can get to the toilet,” according to WebMD. Kegels can prevent this.

Risk of causing infections, even if both partners are negative for all sexually transmitted diseases and infections

“Even if both partners do not have a sexually-transmitted infection or disease, bacteria normally in the anus can potentially infect the giving partner” — WebMD. The anus naturally has bacteria, and depending on the insertive partner’s personal hygiene, they can be exposed to urinary tract infections.

Strangely enough, “Teen Vogue”’s “Guide to Anal Sex” greatly infuriated many parents. One parent, in particular, known as the Activist Mommy, tweeted a video of her furiously ripping and burning a “Teen Vogue” June edition magazine.

“They are teaching kids how to have anal intercourse. We should not be teaching children, period, how to have sex,” she said during her impassioned tirade. As she ripped the glossy magazine page by page and threw the remains into the small campfire, she called the “Teen Vogue” writers and editors “garbage” and requested that all parents go to their local libraries and stores to demand the expulsion of “Teen Vogue” content.

The controversial “Teen Vogue” article simply introduced safe practices for those that engage or plans to engage in anal sex. Some of these tips include using water or silicone-based lubricants to avoid rectal tearing, the significance of using condoms, and why one should go slowly during anal sex.

Absurdly, some parents falsely trust that their children will abstain from sex if they never learn about it. However, just because you didn’t teach your child about sex, it does not mean they can’t learn it from somewhere else. Some people, like my own mother, never had their parents talk to them about sex, but they still learned about it through pornographic films, sexually active peers, and other outside entities.

“My father told me to not let anyone touch my fur burger,” my mother said. “I didn’t even know what a vagina was until I was about 14-years-old.” She learned about sex after finding my grandfather’s collection of pornographic films. “Two years later, I was pregnant with you.”

According to National Center for Biotechnology Information’s study, and many others, children that have “the talk” with their parents are more likely to postpone sexual activity until they are older, and will often use protection while having sex.

Nevertheless, some parents might wonder what the appropriate age is to start discussing sex with their children. It is recommended to begin as early as 2 years old. It is not recommended to begin any discussion about sex being judgmental. Never make a child feel convicted before they actually engage in risky sex; otherwise, they won’t trust you, which means they won’t talk to you about anything.

Parents, if your children are really what you hold near and dear to you, their health must come first. Therefore, the talk about the birds and the bees has to happen, and it has to include anal sex. Heteronormativity must be dismantled in all conversations about sex. Remember: Children are crafty individuals. If you don’t share your knowledge about sex with them, someone else will. Ready to assume that risk?


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Anal sex and cum in a woman’s ass creates a higher sex drive

First, semen anywhere helps a woman’s sex drive regardless if it’s left in a vagina, ass, or mouth. The mouth is probably the least effective being that the acids in the stomach can destroy the testosterone, while the vagina or colon would absorb much more effectively. The colon being the quickest and most effective.  This is the reason why some quick-acting seizure medications are inserted rectally – the body absorbs chemicals the fastest through the colon walls, semen/testosterone included.

Below I will piece together a few articles and let the reader decide. As far as I know, this claim has not been proven and it originally started when my wife, Nessa, started to leave my sperm in her ass after sex. For whatever reason, it seemed a bit cleaner to pull out in the last few seconds and put my head in her ass and unload. She liked it, I thought it was a bit more kinky, and her vagina always stayed fresh to eat, not that my sperm has ever scared me away. However, it definitely was much fresher (no day old sperm). If her ass wasn’t as fresh, well… it’s her ass.

We immediately noticed that her sex drive shot through the roof. She began wanting to deepthroat me. In fact, this sparked her entire need to deepthroat (see “Deepthroating – My Introduction”). She went from initiating sex 10% of the time to 75% of the time, and she demanded that I cum inside her, especially in her ass.

Unsure of exactly what was happening, whether it was her maturing sexually, her age, or the semen in her ass, I began to experiment. For weeks at a time I would only cum in her mouth or vagina and slowly her sex drive would decline. She didn’t notice, but as a man, I did. If I came in her ass, within the next 15 minutes and lasting for the next 48 hours, it seemed to affect her libido. Her oral would change from slow and pleasant, to aggressive and demanding. Her sex talk would go from dirty to extremely dirty, especially when she talked about my cum.

First let’s talk about the contents of semen, specifically testosterone.

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