Giving A Prostate Massage From HER Perspective

Prostate [pros-teyt] (from the Greek word προστάτης, prostates, literally “one who stands before”, “protector”, “guardian”)

If you’re not familiar with the prostate, it is a gland surrounding the neck of the bladder in men.  The prostate releases alkalinic prostatic fluid, which is part of the semen and is secreted during ejaculation. Prostatic fluid constitutes about 30% of the semen volume (along with spermatazoa and seminal vesicle fluid). The Prostate is about the size of a walnut and surrounds the urethra just below the urinary bladder. The prostate and be massaged and felt through the rectum. The overall alkalinity of semen helps to neutralize the acidity of the vaginal tract, prolonging the life span of sperm

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How Writing About Sex Made Me A Better Person

 

Extremely good article about being a sex blogger/writer.   A lot of these points mirror our own.

 

The summer before my senior year, my friends got jobs in retail or food service, and I got a job writing about sex — my mother was very proud.

I was hired as a staff writer for Sex, Etc., a sex education magazine by teens and for teens, overseen by a board of writing and medical professionals. It’s produced and distributed nationwide by the nonprofit Answer, whose mission is to provide “unfettered access to sexuality education for young people and the adults who teach them.”

It’s definitely a niche job; writing for Sex, Etc. requires a unique skillset and a willingness to talk openly about some very taboo ideas. I learned a lot in my short time here thus far, but it has already revolutionized the ways I understand the world, my community, and myself. I am a better person because of it.

1. It made me more mindful and tolerant.

No matter how open-minded I claimed to be, working at Sex, Etc. made me realize even I am prone to the knee jerk reaction of being judgey. I hadn’t realized how much my own criticisms were affecting my activism and my journalism ― which is supposed to be unbiased.

Especially when it came controversial subjects like sex, my LGBT-inclusiveness and anti-slut shaming rhetoric masked some deeply ingrained prejudices. I made sweeping generalizations about people who may think or behave differently than me.

But at Sex Etc., that type of unproductive mindset was called out and challenged. As one my editors said the first day on the job: “Don’t ‘yuck’ someone else’s ‘yum.’”

In other words, if it’s legal, consensual, and not hurting anyone, don’t worry about what happens behind closed doors.

2. It taught me to respect people’s boundaries.

Prior to working at Sex, Etc., it never occurred to me how often I really should be affirming consent with the people around me.

The answer: Always.

Writing for Sex, Etc. isn’t all about the nitty gritty. Likewise, sex isn’t the only boundary you should be wary of crossing. Even a well-meaning hug requires some form of consent.

It isn’t limited to physical interactions either. You should get explicit consent before posting someone’s photo online, giving out their personal information (such as social media or phone number), or engaging someone in a conversation about potentially sensitive subject matter.

3. It made me more confident.

As a journalist, it’s important I state the truth no matter how uncomfortable it is. As a teenage girl, I’ve been conditioned not to cause a fuss, and to shy away from words like “vagina” or “menstruation” in public (sorry again, Mom).

Working at Sex, Etc. helped me realize my body isn’t uniquely gross and weird. Rather, we are all equally gross and weird, and it’s important to accept our natural selves as we are.

4. For the first time in my life, I received quality sex education.

My freshman year of high school, my teacher showed the class a slide show of late stage gonorrhea. Then, during my senior year, I got to carry around a flour sack baby to learn about the “miracles of life.”

But beyond that, my sex education came from Google. Despite my best efforts to use reliable sources, I learned at Sex, Etc. how complicated sex education can really be. Even sources that seemed reliable ended up giving me misleading information about my sexual health.

Not to mention, public school sex ed all but ignored LGBT topics. So, being on staff provided me with comprehensive education about sexual orientation and gender, as well as contraceptives, STDs and consent, in ways I probably wouldn’t have access to otherwise.

5. I learned how much I have to learn.

I see myself as someone who is well-read. I spent a lot of my early teen years reading about gender studies, sexuality, rape culture and reproductive rights, among other things.

So, it was a real culture shock when I started writing about this stuff and realized how in the dark I really was.

Even with the world at my fingertips I wasn’t able to adequately educate myself on my own. I couldn’t have. I didn’t even know what I didn’t know, and that’s terrifying in its own right. But even scarier is the fact that most of my peers will never learn these things, especially in states where sex education is abstinence only, if it even exists at all.

Sending young people out into the world without comprehensive sexuality education is setting them up for failure. All people have a right to know about their own bodies. But between the active suppression of sex education, the defunding of sexual health resources, and the blatant disregard of fact in favor of political censorship, that can seem like an almost impossible feat.

I was lucky to have the opportunity to write for Sex, Etc. I am a better, more educated person because of it. Now, I hope to use that experience to shape a society in which all people of all ages are empowered to make healthy sexual choices for themselves.

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The Yoni Massage – Worshipping The Vagina (A Woman’s Perspective)

Below is an interesting article about the Yoni massage by  Psalm Isadora. A Yoni massage is just a fancy way of saying a “vagina massage.” I will add my own opinion to various parts of the article so our readers can get another female’s perspective on the different things being said. Although the article is great, as was Psalm Isadora who passed away last year, there isn’t one technique that works on all women, and no matter how well thought out these techniques are, every manual to your lover should be exclusive and unique to what she enjoys.


The Yoni Massage

The vagina is called yoni in Sanskrit ( standardized dialect of Old Indo-Aryan) and loosely translates to “a sacred space.” In Tantra philosophy, they approach the vagina from a place of the utmost love and respect. Yoni massage is a practice intended to truly honor a woman, to give her selfless pleasure, and to explore the sacred side of our sexuality.

This isn’t about having one orgasm. It’s about trying to feel more and more pleasure that will become waves of multiple orgasms throughout the massage. It can be done alone, or done by a partner, either individually or as foreplay to lovemaking.

It’s especially beneficial for women who have never had orgasms. The Yoni massage allows you time to slowly explore your body in a more sensual way. It can also help women who have one orgasm and feel finished to achieve multiple orgasms. It can be very healing for those who have suffered sexual trauma in their past, because the approach and technique is all about giving to the woman—making her feel loved, cherished, worshiped, and honored.


What I Think About The Yoni Massage

Worshipping any part of my body is an amazing feeling, especially my vagina. When a man cherishes his time with my naughty bits, it makes me feel like a queen.   It makes me feel beautiful and sexy.  


 

1. Set the scene.
As you must when exploring all new things, start with an open mind, open heart, and no judgment of yourself or your body. Lie on your back in a comfortable place with a pillow under your hips, your knees up, and your feet on the ground. Have your favorite massage oil handy. We prefer coconut oil for its silky feel and sensual aroma.

2. Connect to your breath.
Breath work is a key element in any Tantra practice. The one we’ll use here is called Bliss Breath. Constrict the back of your throat, inhale, and hear a whispering sound, then exhale and release that sound again. Continue to take deep, slow, and audible breaths.

This grounds you in your body and keeps you out of your head, and it helps to spread the orgasmic energy throughout your body. We don’t want the energy just in your clitoris. This type of deep breathing can help move that energy from the yoni to all parts of your body.

3. Warm up.
While clitoral stimulation is great foreplay for sexual intercourse, a body massage or tantric breast massage is a great warm-up for the yoni massage. The goal here is to get relaxed and slowly build arousal.

Start with some coconut oil on the belly and gently massage there. The belly is an often overlooked area of the woman’s body but has many nerve endings. Massage the rib cage, between the breasts, and the lower abdomen.

Once the body begins to respond, slowly circle the breasts before circling the areola—don’t touch the nipples yet. Once her body responds more, begin to tease the nipples by alternating between circles and light pinching, and between light, medium, and strong touches.


What I Think About The Warm Up

Foreplay isn’t a new idea or something the ancient scrolls of India need to teach us.  This advice seems more like what you’d do before a yoga class then preparing to orgasm. All girls aren’t the same, try not to weird out your significant other asking her to breath like she is in Lamaze class.  I’d suggest both you and your partner do what makes you both feel the most comfortable and sexy.  I do not need breathing exercises to focus my inner orgasmic powers.  I prefer to lay on my back nude while Ryan is nude around me.  I may reach around and fondle him while he works all the crevices of my body with his hands.  I get the most turned on when he puts his flaccid dick over my face and in my mouth.  Much like a child with a pacifier, his penis in my mouth soothes me and keeps me turned on and focused on myself.  This may sound unusual, but it also keeps your man focused on pleasing you, because he is getting physical sensations that keeps him motivated to keep spoiling you in return.  I’ve read from various men that they can massage their women’s back for hours while they watch a movie, if she is laying in his lap and playing/sucking on his penis.  There was one couple that claimed to have done this ritual every night for the last 10 years. The husband bragged about how he gets oral sex every night, while she was happy to get her back massaged for hours.  We’ve also tried this, and it’s extremely relaxing to nicely suck on Ryan’s penis while he massages my back when we’re watching a movie.  With that being said, I’ve learned that my man can please me for hours if he has some sort of physical stimuli himself.  In a perfect world, we’d expect him to work his hands and tongue over our bodies and want nothing in return, but this isn’t a perfect world. I do not mind giving a little effort to make sure he has his balls rubbed while he is exploring my body.


 

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