The Yoni Massage – Worshipping The Vagina (A Woman’s Perspective)

Below is an interesting article about the Yoni massage by  Psalm Isadora. A Yoni massage is just a fancy way of saying a “vagina massage.” I will add my own opinion to various parts of the article so our readers can get another female’s perspective on the different things being said. Although the article is great, as was Psalm Isadora who passed away last year, there isn’t one technique that works on all women, and no matter how well thought out these techniques are, every manual to your lover should be exclusive and unique to what she enjoys.

The Yoni Massage

The vagina is called yoni in Sanskrit ( standardized dialect of Old Indo-Aryan) and loosely translates to “a sacred space.” In Tantra philosophy, they approach the vagina from a place of the utmost love and respect. Yoni massage is a practice intended to truly honor a woman, to give her selfless pleasure, and to explore the sacred side of our sexuality.

This isn’t about having one orgasm. It’s about trying to feel more and more pleasure that will become waves of multiple orgasms throughout the massage. It can be done alone, or done by a partner, either individually or as foreplay to lovemaking.

It’s especially beneficial for women who have never had orgasms. The Yoni massage allows you time to slowly explore your body in a more sensual way. It can also help women who have one orgasm and feel finished to achieve multiple orgasms. It can be very healing for those who have suffered sexual trauma in their past, because the approach and technique is all about giving to the woman—making her feel loved, cherished, worshiped, and honored.

What I Think About The Yoni Massage

Worshipping any part of my body is an amazing feeling, especially my vagina. When a man cherishes his time with my naughty bits, it makes me feel like a queen.   It makes me feel beautiful and sexy.  


1. Set the scene.
As you must when exploring all new things, start with an open mind, open heart, and no judgment of yourself or your body. Lie on your back in a comfortable place with a pillow under your hips, your knees up, and your feet on the ground. Have your favorite massage oil handy. We prefer coconut oil for its silky feel and sensual aroma.

2. Connect to your breath.
Breath work is a key element in any Tantra practice. The one we’ll use here is called Bliss Breath. Constrict the back of your throat, inhale, and hear a whispering sound, then exhale and release that sound again. Continue to take deep, slow, and audible breaths.

This grounds you in your body and keeps you out of your head, and it helps to spread the orgasmic energy throughout your body. We don’t want the energy just in your clitoris. This type of deep breathing can help move that energy from the yoni to all parts of your body.

3. Warm up.
While clitoral stimulation is great foreplay for sexual intercourse, a body massage or tantric breast massage is a great warm-up for the yoni massage. The goal here is to get relaxed and slowly build arousal.

Start with some coconut oil on the belly and gently massage there. The belly is an often overlooked area of the woman’s body but has many nerve endings. Massage the rib cage, between the breasts, and the lower abdomen.

Once the body begins to respond, slowly circle the breasts before circling the areola—don’t touch the nipples yet. Once her body responds more, begin to tease the nipples by alternating between circles and light pinching, and between light, medium, and strong touches.

What I Think About The Warm Up

Foreplay isn’t a new idea or something the ancient scrolls of India need to teach us.  This advice seems more like what you’d do before a yoga class then preparing to orgasm. All girls aren’t the same, try not to weird out your significant other asking her to breath like she is in Lamaze class.  I’d suggest both you and your partner do what makes you both feel the most comfortable and sexy.  I do not need breathing exercises to focus my inner orgasmic powers.  I prefer to lay on my back nude while Ryan is nude around me.  I may reach around and fondle him while he works all the crevices of my body with his hands.  I get the most turned on when he puts his flaccid dick over my face and in my mouth.  Much like a child with a pacifier, his penis in my mouth soothes me and keeps me turned on and focused on myself.  This may sound unusual, but it also keeps your man focused on pleasing you, because he is getting physical sensations that keeps him motivated to keep spoiling you in return.  I’ve read from various men that they can massage their women’s back for hours while they watch a movie, if she is laying in his lap and playing/sucking on his penis.  There was one couple that claimed to have done this ritual every night for the last 10 years. The husband bragged about how he gets oral sex every night, while she was happy to get her back massaged for hours.  We’ve also tried this, and it’s extremely relaxing to nicely suck on Ryan’s penis while he massages my back when we’re watching a movie.  With that being said, I’ve learned that my man can please me for hours if he has some sort of physical stimuli himself.  In a perfect world, we’d expect him to work his hands and tongue over our bodies and want nothing in return, but this isn’t a perfect world. I do not mind giving a little effort to make sure he has his balls rubbed while he is exploring my body.


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