Licking Inside His Penis Hole And In His Urethra

DedicationWarning:  Men with sensitive p-aginas, please exit this blog immediately. 

As most of our readers know, we are extremely experimental and enjoy trying new things, especially when it is between just Ryan and I.  Lately I have been enjoying grabbing Ryan’s penis, while I massage his penis, and squeeze the tip of his penis so his urethra opens wide, and slowly slide my tongue down inside his penis hole.  Although I can only get it down a quarter inch, I love feeling him squirm in my mouth with  his penis walls around my tongue.  I have also ordered him jewelry that looks like an anal plug, except made for the penis hole.  It will go about an inch inside his urethra and the tip will be a shiny diamond.  This is extremely sexy to me and will also stretch his hole so I can get more tongue down inside him.

“Don’t worry baby, I will go real slow and just eeeeeease it in.  Oh, I promise it will only hurt for a little bit.”

The back story: 

The first time I did this to Ryan, he hated the feeling of it.  He jerked his dick away from me and asked me what I was doing. Although this reaction my sway some women to never try again, I am not some woman. I tried again a few minutes later and asked him to relax.  Ryan squirmed a bit but eventually got used to it.  I really liked how he reacted. He slowly liked the sensation and I’m not going to lie – I enjoyed being a sadist for those few seconds, knowing I was doing something that made him squirm and wince in pain.  It reminds of how I feel when I first feel his dick slide inside me.  No matter how  ready I am, that first inner stretch as he slides his dick inside me always takes the breath out of me.

If you haven’t tried this technique, I suggest you pin him down and try it out. His reaction may not be what you expect, but it feels empowering fucking his little pee hole with my tongue.  With a bit of stretching, this may be my new thing!  

Analingus Is A Normal Part of Oral Sex For A Man and Woman

AnalingusAnalingus is a normal part of oral sex for a man and woman. So what exactly is anilingus?  

Anilingus / analingus is the oral and anal sex act in which a person stimulates the anus of another by using the mouth, including lips, tongue, or teeth. It is also called anal–oral contact and anal–oral sex; colloquial names include rimming and rim job. It may be performed by and on persons of any sexual orientation for pleasure or as a form of erotic humiliation.

Analingus Tip 1: Keep your sphincter and taint clean at all times.  Rather than using toilet paper to wipe, hop in the shower and clean thoroughly after using the bathroom.  This only takes a few minutes and truthfully, toilet paper doesn’t clean the ass, and definitely doesn’t clean the bacteria off your ass cheeks from the toilet seat.  One bad experience below can last a lifetime.  Hygiene is the most important part of a healthy “oral sex life”.     

Analingus is so much a part of oral sex that if you do not let your tongue slide down to his/her sphincter, you aren’t doing it right!  This idea is hard to accept for some men/women, because they think it’s gross or crossing a moral line.  Much like when boys sit around the locker room at 13 and think it’s gross to eat a woman’s vagina, or girls vow they will never suck on that weird-looking phallus that hangs between a man’s legs.  Sexual maturity and being with a partner you know is clean, you want to please, and you understand that the anal area on the human body is one of our first erogenous zones.  Now, I am not saying men/women should perform analingus on a one night stand or someone they just met, but there are men/women that will.  And these are the men/women that leave a lasting impression.  

A man's balls and penis hang and touch his ass area all day.The real question is, if you are giving a man a blow job that you feel is unclean an inch away from his balls, why give him a blow job in the first place?  I took this picture of Ryan one morning because I loved the way his body and penis looked when I first woke him up.  In hindsight, this photo is a good example of how a man’s anatomy hangs naturally.  As you can see, his balls and penis rest near his ass area.  Do I consider his penis or balls “tainted (pun intended) because they touch his ass throughout the day?  Of course not!  I love it.  Thankfully Ryan is extremely self-conscious about his body and likes to keep himself shaved and clean, especially if I am about to give him oral sex.  And not just his balls and penis, but also his ass. 

Analingus Tip 2:  If you want to enjoy analingus, groom your crotch, taint, and ass area. This goes for the ladies and men.  If you want to send out your ass bat signal to your significant other, you will need to shave your ass area, specifically around your ass hole.  Although this blog is pro analingus, it is also pro grooming.   Ladies, as a bisexual woman, I am not coming near your ass hole if it isn’t shaved. 

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Parents, Don’t Forget Anal Sex When Having ‘The Talk’ With Your Children

I hate to “butt” into your discussion about the birds and the bees, but it’s time to start including anal sex in “the talk.”

Discussing sex with any teenager can be uncomfortable for all parties involved. My mother started talking to me about sex at the first sight of facial hair growing on my chin. I remember how dreadfully I wanted to crawl out of my skin; in retrospect, I’m sure she felt the same way. Throughout our discussion, she told me about how the penis is inserted inside of the vagina, how one drop of male ejaculation can impregnate a woman, and about the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases/infections. Our talk about the birds and the bees was largely based on the same heteronormative methods most parents guilelessly follow, even today.

However, regardless of one’s sexual orientation or gender identity, every person has an anus — well, almost everyone has an anus, according to NBC News — and can participate in anal sex. But like all forms of intercourse, anal sex comes with a risk, perhaps the greatest risks in comparison to all other sexual practices. Some of these risks include:

Increased risk of exposure to sexually transmitted diseases or infection

“Penetration can tear the tissue inside the anus, allowing bacteria and viruses to enter the bloodstream” WebMD says. Many sexually transmitted diseases and infections come from bodily fluids; tears in the anus increases the chance of bodily fluids entering through the tears and directly into the bloodstream.

Risk of permanently damaging the anus with personal hygiene upkeep

According to Dr. K is Jeffrey D. Klausner, “Douching could have some serious negative effects. First, frequent douching may compromise the natural protective fluids and lining in your anus.” When the body stops producing these fluids, it becomes more prone to tears and infections, which will make passing stool — or even sitting —extremely uncomfortable. Also, some of these instruments are not rectum friendly and will cause ulcers.

Risk of weakening the anal sphincter

“Repetitive anal sex may lead to weakening of the anal sphincter, making it difficult to hold in feces until you can get to the toilet,” according to WebMD. Kegels can prevent this.

Risk of causing infections, even if both partners are negative for all sexually transmitted diseases and infections

“Even if both partners do not have a sexually-transmitted infection or disease, bacteria normally in the anus can potentially infect the giving partner” — WebMD. The anus naturally has bacteria, and depending on the insertive partner’s personal hygiene, they can be exposed to urinary tract infections.

Strangely enough, “Teen Vogue”’s “Guide to Anal Sex” greatly infuriated many parents. One parent, in particular, known as the Activist Mommy, tweeted a video of her furiously ripping and burning a “Teen Vogue” June edition magazine.

“They are teaching kids how to have anal intercourse. We should not be teaching children, period, how to have sex,” she said during her impassioned tirade. As she ripped the glossy magazine page by page and threw the remains into the small campfire, she called the “Teen Vogue” writers and editors “garbage” and requested that all parents go to their local libraries and stores to demand the expulsion of “Teen Vogue” content.

The controversial “Teen Vogue” article simply introduced safe practices for those that engage or plans to engage in anal sex. Some of these tips include using water or silicone-based lubricants to avoid rectal tearing, the significance of using condoms, and why one should go slowly during anal sex.

Absurdly, some parents falsely trust that their children will abstain from sex if they never learn about it. However, just because you didn’t teach your child about sex, it does not mean they can’t learn it from somewhere else. Some people, like my own mother, never had their parents talk to them about sex, but they still learned about it through pornographic films, sexually active peers, and other outside entities.

“My father told me to not let anyone touch my fur burger,” my mother said. “I didn’t even know what a vagina was until I was about 14-years-old.” She learned about sex after finding my grandfather’s collection of pornographic films. “Two years later, I was pregnant with you.”

According to National Center for Biotechnology Information’s study, and many others, children that have “the talk” with their parents are more likely to postpone sexual activity until they are older, and will often use protection while having sex.

Nevertheless, some parents might wonder what the appropriate age is to start discussing sex with their children. It is recommended to begin as early as 2 years old. It is not recommended to begin any discussion about sex being judgmental. Never make a child feel convicted before they actually engage in risky sex; otherwise, they won’t trust you, which means they won’t talk to you about anything.

Parents, if your children are really what you hold near and dear to you, their health must come first. Therefore, the talk about the birds and the bees has to happen, and it has to include anal sex. Heteronormativity must be dismantled in all conversations about sex. Remember: Children are crafty individuals. If you don’t share your knowledge about sex with them, someone else will. Ready to assume that risk?

 

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This Sex Trafficking Survivor Protects Girls From ‘Hell’ She Endured

To many, Emmy Myers appeared to be a model student during high school. She was involved in gymnastics, track and the agricultural club.

But her life took a dark turn into drugs and, eventually, sex trafficking.

Today, the 28-year-old Wisconsin native wants people to know that sex trafficking can happen to anyone ― and that the people buying women and girls can come from every income level and from every community.

The issue isn’t just “something from a Hollywood movie,” Myers told HuffPost.

Through her nonprofit, Lacey’s Hope Project, Myers speaks openly about her experiences. The organization’s name is a nod to Myers’s previous stage moniker when she used to dance for money.

Human trafficking is on the rise in the U.S. In 2016, the number of cases jumped 35.6 percent from the year prior, according to the National Human Trafficking Hotline. These are cases that involve victims who are forced to engage in physical labor or sexual exploitation against their will. These crimes are climbing for a number of reasons, according to Jarrett Luckett, executive director of Exploit No More, a group that supports sex trafficking survivors.

Luckett frequently collaborates with Myers on events that raise awareness about trafficking in the city. 

High poverty levels and the country’s growing drug epidemic are two factors that make victims more susceptible to being trafficked, he told HuffPost.

These issues have helped make the city where Myers grew up, Milwaukee, a hub for human trafficking

Milwaukee is particularly desirable for traffickers because they can transport their victims to a handful of major nearby cities, including Chicago and Madison. Heroin use in Milwaukee combined with its high unemployment rate, helps traffickers to lure in their victims. 

Sex trafficking has become so widespread in Milwaukee that the city has been dubbed the “Harvard of pimp school.” 

Myers’s story demonstrates how traffickers can succeed in grooming even victims who have strong family ties and ambitions. 

Myers was the kind of active, involved kid most parents would brag about. 

But she was also sexually abused by a family friend from around the time she was 3 years old until she was 6 years old. She spent most of her childhood blaming herself for the repeated assaults, she said. That eventually led her to find comfort in drugs and fall into the hands of a manipulative trafficker, she said.

Myers said she first tried drugs in high school and started stripping during her senior year to help fund her habit. After high school, she first experimented with heroin and went to rehab twice before she turned 20. She danced on and off to pay for drugs. 

When she was 24 and trying to get clean, she moved in with someone who was abusive. Her drug dealer, who was aware of the toxic situation, offered to take Myers in “under his wing” and take care of her. He provided her with housing, clothes and food. But he also advertised Myers for sex on Backpage.com, a classified ad site that offers up a host of services and products. The site was forced to shut down its adult ads section this year after a Senate report accused Backpage.com of facilitating prostitution and trafficking. 

“Never did he disclose to me that I was going to be selling myself. Once I was there, I didn’t have anywhere to go,” Myers said. ”[Pimps] are good at what they do. They pretend they love you. They learn what makes you tick and they learn your fears.”

When Myers objected to being sold for sex, she said her drug dealer threatened to kill her nephews if she didn’t comply. He confiscated her identification and the little money she had. 

Myers’s pimp, together with his girlfriend, drove from city to city and trafficked Myers out of various hotels. She’d meet men as early as 6:30 a.m. before they headed to business meetings and had sex with other clients well into the night. Myers’s pimp kept her high pretty much all of the time and used drugs as a way to keep her from protesting the arrangement. Myers was “lucky” in a sense. None of the men she slept with were violent with her. Most of them were respected, successful career-driven men. Most of them had families at home. 

“This is what surprises America,” Myers said. “It’s not these big, fat smelly gross guys. It’s often very prominent men in the community.”

HuffPost is hitting the road this fall to interview people about their hopes, dreams, fears ― and what it means to be American today.

A few months later, Myers was arrested in Milwaukee for charges unrelated to sex trafficking or prostitution. There were warrants out for her arrest and the police got the FBI involved. They offered to help her change her life and recover.

Myers went to jail in 2013 for about a month and then to rehab for the third time. When she got out, she returned to the trafficking life for a short period. Half a year later, she went back to jail for about seven months, but was allowed work release while serving time. When she completed her term, Myers moved into an emergency shelter for survivors of domestic abuse for two months. With the help of a transitional living program, she was able to secure her own apartment.

Myers has been sober for three years now. She has a police record, but hasn’t been classified as a felon, which makes her lucky. Many trafficking survivors in the U.S. have prostitution charges on their record – for crimes they were forced to commit – and can’t get their records expunged. That, in turn, precludes them from getting jobs and housing.  

Myers currently works as a caregiver for elderly residents of an assisted living facility. She’s also the executive director of her nonprofit, which aims to prevent instances of trafficking through its awareness and educational events. Myers shares her story at schools, churches and other community gatherings. She educates medical professionals, students, parents, law enforcement, first responders, and others about the realities of trafficking, and what to look out for to stop these crimes from happening.

For example, she’ll tell doctors to keep an eye out for bruising in odd places, multiple miscarriages, patients who don’t know how many sexual partners they’ve had and those who can’t give an exact address for where they live.

This type of advocacy work is crucial to curbing trafficking cases, Luckett said. 

“The preventative work is so important, so people don’t get into ‘the life’ ― so they don’t have to go through the hell,” Luckett said. “There’s no boxed in description of what a trafficker looks like or what a victim looks like. That’s what makes the issue difficult. But there are signs and red flags to be aware of.”

The Historical Importance Of Anonymous Gay Sex

I had sex last night with a stranger. I was falling asleep one moment and the next I was wiping my ass clean. I don’t know the man’s name nor do I know his age. It was just before daybreak. My timing was impeccable. I captured him as the panic of a night’s impending failure was kicking in. You see, the end of the night brings a rush driven by the need for companionship. With each bar, club, dance floor comes a promise; a promise of connection, love, passion… if only for a night.

It is easy to forget that we are born naked, void of the societal expectations we assume to be natural. Throughout our lives, social scripts are imprinted onto our bodies with the subtlety of the greatest of con-artists. The scripts become a part of our being, directing our behavior, mentalities, and actions. Gendered behavior is perhaps the most obvious manifestation of these codes. Indeed, this is what gender theorist Judith Butler calls, Gender Performativity. Gender is entirely socially constructed. To break free of our prescribed gender role is to disturb the social system; it shatters the performance. Just look at the rise of Second Wave Feminism in the 1960s. However, for the most part, we remain oblivious, believing that the behaviors in which we engage are self-determined; that they are naturally rooted in our core being.

He buzzes the doorbell mere moments after I solicit his services. The blue light from the intercom shatters the stillness of my apartment. I wait, closely assessing his frail body through the screen. He is not my type; far removed from the clichéd muscled figure I seek. His body is scrawny. His nose protrudes through tightly worn skin.

Why do we do this? How can we do this? Inviting a stranger into our home in the middle of the night defies logic. It goes against what we have been taught, for it brings forth dangers, both perceived and real. Will a man come alone or will hidden monsters follow in his pursuit? We are immediately vulnerable, exposed, and naked with an individual with no name. Certainly, heterosexuals engage in clandestine behaviors. They too seek hedonistic pleasures aroused by the promise of instant gratification. However, for a gay man, his decision to engage in such behavior runs deeper than mere bodily satisfaction. It is a part of his history and identity. It is his performance. It is a behavior that society has imprinted onto his essence. The media he consumes, the venues he visits, the queer family he has built, all enforcing this behavior.

I put on a shirt, buttoning it to the top and pull on a pair of dirty shorts. Standing naked at his arrival is perhaps too obvious. There is a series of knocks, faint at first, then increasingly obtrusive. I open the door only to be greeted by the nauseating concoction of alcohol, tobacco, and marijuana. His bulging eyes are eternal oceans of electric red, searing me from the dimly-lit hallway. He walks in and removes his boots and jacket. Buck-teeth pierce through thin purple lips.

Judith Butler writes, “The act that one does, the act that one performs is, in a sense, an act that’s been going on before one arrived on the scene.” Our behaviors exist within a continuum of time, repeated throughout history. Whilst gender and sexuality are distinct traits, Butler’s notions of performativity certainly rings true for homosexual norms. We are actors, subconsciously re-enacting a sexually-charged queer script that has occurred for centuries.

“How was your night?” I ask, my voice shaking with that classic pre-dawn cocktail of arousal and fear.

“Yeah. I was at a bar with friends.” He laughs.

“Was the bar fun?”

“Yeah.”

His voice is uneducated, his breath repulsive, his stature unattractive.

He walks closer, a sickening smile breaks across his pockmarked face.

We should feel no shame when engaging in these behaviors. Rather, we should feel community, camaraderie, and unity.

In days not so far gone, anonymous sex was the only choice we had — ‘coming out’ was loaded with risk. Sex was anonymous by necessity. Times may have changed, yet the behavior remains. Go anywhere, pull out a cellphone, and dozens of men can be found waiting. Waiting in a marketplace facilitated by a thirst for physical connection. The historical parallels are uncanny. It used to happen in bathhouses and theaters, in parks and in subways. Now, it happens from within the confines of our home. The venues have changed yet the performance remains. This is our fairytale, for none other has been written. This is all we know. There is no Prince Charming, no Cinderella to pursue. There are no formalities of courtship, just glory-holes and physical statistics. Sure, in America we can get married and have children; we can get jobs and walk with swagger. However, we continue to strengthen a sexual culture that is unique to our identity because to operate against this is to divorce ourselves from a gay past.

Lips smack, our bodies fighting, biting, clawing. We search for air, our hands dancing around each other. Over the shirt, under shirt; in his pants, up his ass. It is as if he is my lover, my Savior, and I am his. I bite down on his lip, pulling his mouth deeper into mine, tasting the sweetness of cheap alcohol and cigarettes. He pushes me down, my body collapsing onto the IKEA couch my mother helped construct. I pull him on top of me, remove his shirt, and suck on his microscopic nipples. Ingrown hairs fight through his skin, tickling my tongue as it dances over his gaunt torso. Soon I am back at his head, invading his ears and nape with ferocity. I know the joy he is feeling; the tingle electrifying his extremities. I suck hard on his neck, inhaling the scent of pathetic cologne that had once intended to impress.

This is not the first time I have had anonymous sex, nor will it be the last. This is not the first time I have loathed the experience, nor will it be the last. So why continue to engage in this behavior? Why not stop? I am certainly not addicted to sex and I am confident in my ability to settle down. Indeed, I hope to eventually partake in the decidedly heterosexual model of monogamy. However, as a single gay man, casual sex is what I am expected to do. It is the social script written for my people. We run from the prospect of a relationship despite our clandestine longing for romance (if you don’t believe me, read the research of Dr. David M. Frost). Sex is the essence of our being. First dates involve technical discussions of who tops and who bottoms? Countless websites are dedicated to our insatiable appetite for sex. Websites such as Adam4Adam.com have morphed into Grindr and Scruff. Anonymous gay sex has never been so easy. These markets thrive for the gay community for a reason.

I look at the stranger lying naked before meHe moans, his mouth open wide in comic relief. His tongue slides past his teeth like a serpent. He slaps my bottom in a learned act of passionate aggression. I can’t bear to look at him. To see his bulging eyes fixed on my body nauseates me, so I kiss him. Hard. Harder. I ram my body against his. His head bangs against the armrest as the couch scratches against the worn hardwood floor. He moans, pleading me to push harder, to go deeper. He has no idea I am not inside of him.

All too often, we hear that the sexually charged gay man is lonely, self-loathing, and insecure. He needn’t be. He is, knowingly or not, acting as those who came before him and those who will follow. He is, as Butler notes, engaging in an “act that’s been going on before [he] arrived on the scene.” It is historically rooted, reinforced by contemporary stereotypes. As with any culture, differences exist that are born from regionalism and personal preferences but for the most part, causal, anonymous sex is the closest we have to a model of romantic behavior. To wait in purity for our Prince Charming is to welcome certain isolation. Worse, to abstain from this behavior is to sever what little ties connect us to our gay past. This historical narrative is certainly deemed impure, shameful perhaps, by agents of heterosexual society, and it is only natural that we absorb these negativities beliefs. However, gay men inhabit a society far removed from the heteronormative. We should feel no shame when engaging in these behaviors. Rather, we should feel community, camaraderie, and unity. For all the divisions that plague the gay community, casual, anonymous sex is perhaps the one commonality that binds us.

“I’m going to come. You want me to come on you?”

He doesn’t answer but an infantile thirst breaks across on his face.

“Yeah… Oh yeah.”

I remove my underwear, rubbing my penis against his torso.

“Ok, I’m going to come.”

As I do, he sits up, his lips puckering. Buck-teeth clamp around my shaft as I shoot inside his mouth. Sperm leaks from the corners of his face and onto his chest and onto the sofa. I get up and wipe myself. Disgusted. Irritated. Satisfied. Sweaty. Exhausted. He licks residue sperm off his fingers. He touches me, kisses me. My sperm passes from his saliva into my dry mouth.

And then he is gone.