From A Clean Shaven Man To A Manly Man

Although I don’t think there is anything wrong with a man having, or not having body hair, I do think that it’s a matter of preference. For what makes him comfortable, and for what she is attracted to. For a long time, I associated body hair on a man with being “clean and hygienic.” I felt a clean shaven body was something some men decided to do to show a possible mate that they take care of themselves.  Clean smelling, smooth shaven. Feeling a smooth body, stomach, crotch, balls, and ass meant a man took the time to groom himself.  After all, we’re humans, not apes, which meant men no longer needed body hair to keep themselves warm or to have their hair stand on end to make them a bigger to threat to their enemies. Evolutionary speaking, body hair just seems unnecessary in modern times.

I didn’t always feel this way.  When I first met Ryan I didn’t care about body hair one way or the other.  I met Ryan when I was young and other than on television or on the beach, I hadn’t seen a man’s body enough to create a personal preference.  I just know I wanted one. I do remember the first time Ryan and I snuck into my room while my parents were at work and had sex.  Later, after he left, I found his body hairs on my sheets. Instead of being grossed out, I remember picking them up and saving them in a container.  Although this was over 20 years ago, I do feel this says something about my perception of body hair before I was married.  Not only did I like body hair, I thought it was sexy and saved it as a memento to knowing he was in my bed with me.  

Flash forward a few years.  Unlike first meeting a man and not caring if he has hair on his body or not, marriage creates a new monster.  You mean I can turn my man into a Ken doll and he will go along with it?  I can make his penis look like a dildo, clean shaven, and not deal with all the body hair?  Well shoot, let me go buy him some extra razors then!

That isn’t the whole truth, but it’s partially correct.  In our relationship, Ryan was kind of on the frontier of shaving.  I think the first thing he ever shaved / trimmed was his ass hair.  He has always been extremely picky about this area of his body and has kept it groomed because he didn’t feel it was clean after using the bathroom.  He would later shave it totally clean and even take showers after using the restroom (which he still does).  He is very ANAL about his anus.   

 

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Keeping It Real – Trash Articles “7 Differences Between A Healthy Relationship And A Toxic One”

 

Over the years we have used RSS Feeds and other methods to read random articles regarding Love, Sex, and Relationships.  Most of the time we will add our opinions to them, usually agreeing for the most part.  After reading the following article, we have decided to add a new idea called “Trash Articles”.   Although this is our opinion, a lot of times the internet and blogs are used to create lists simply for click bait purposes and keywords.  That’s it.  Some of these articles are trash and deserve to be called out.  

 

You feel like a better version of yourself when you’re in a healthy, mature relationship. That doesn’t mean your partner completes you, but they do complement your life in just the right way. 

What are some other signs that you’re in the right relationship? Below, marriage experts share seven key differences between a healthy relationship and a toxic one

1. You’re free to pursue your hobbies and maintain friendships. 

Nothing about your core identity should change drastically because of your new relationship status. A mature partner will recognize that pursuing outside interests is necessary and a healthy way to get some air from the relationship, said Kari Carroll, a couples therapist in Portland, Oregon.

“When a partner is too attached to allow you to enjoy something on your own, it can lead to sacrificing one’s own identity to appease the relationship,” she said. “If your partner has fears about you doing things on your own, it could turn into the self-fulfilling prophecy. In other words, you may ultimately seek even more space and leave.”

In school books, I’m sure this seems like pretty intelligent stuffs.  I mean, you should be able to find your soul mate and still do everything you did without them. Nothing wrong with keeping the same friends either, ex boyfriends, best friends that you had one drunken night with, flings that became friends, or just your toxic single friends that enjoy lady nights (or night out with the fellas) and hanging out.  Why wouldn’t you?  I mean, who doesn’t want to keep celebrating ladies night right?  This isn’t toxic at all.  

/sarcasm

When you find a life partner it should be your goal to become one person with him/her. Although having your own hobbies isn’t a bad thing, there isn’t anything toxic about two people becoming one and sharing everything together. Sharing hobbies, sharing friends, and keeping a strong circle is the most important part of a relationship.  And although the books may suggest otherwise, 20 years of a very good marriage is what matters.  I’d argue keeping your hobbies you had while single, the same friendships while single, once you find a partner you love and want to spend the rest of your life with, is the most toxic thing in a relationship.  Lack of commitment, wanting to maintain your single lifestyle, yet have the advantages of marriage.  Although this can be spun both ways, I am spinning this behavior as selfish.  And selfishness in marriages ends up in divorce court.  Selfishness with your love and attention, ends up on “Relationship Goal” meme posters.

 

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Analingus Is A Normal Part of Oral Sex For A Man and Woman

AnalingusAnalingus is a normal part of oral sex for a man and woman. So what exactly is anilingus?  

Anilingus / analingus is the oral and anal sex act in which a person stimulates the anus of another by using the mouth, including lips, tongue, or teeth. It is also called anal–oral contact and anal–oral sex; colloquial names include rimming and rim job. It may be performed by and on persons of any sexual orientation for pleasure or as a form of erotic humiliation.

Analingus Tip 1: Keep your sphincter and taint clean at all times.  Rather than using toilet paper to wipe, hop in the shower and clean thoroughly after using the bathroom.  This only takes a few minutes and truthfully, toilet paper doesn’t clean the ass, and definitely doesn’t clean the bacteria off your ass cheeks from the toilet seat.  One bad experience below can last a lifetime.  Hygiene is the most important part of a healthy “oral sex life”.     

Analingus is so much a part of oral sex that if you do not let your tongue slide down to his/her sphincter, you aren’t doing it right!  This idea is hard to accept for some men/women, because they think it’s gross or crossing a moral line.  Much like when boys sit around the locker room at 13 and think it’s gross to eat a woman’s vagina, or girls vow they will never suck on that weird-looking phallus that hangs between a man’s legs.  Sexual maturity and being with a partner you know is clean, you want to please, and you understand that the anal area on the human body is one of our first erogenous zones.  Now, I am not saying men/women should perform analingus on a one night stand or someone they just met, but there are men/women that will.  And these are the men/women that leave a lasting impression.  

A man's balls and penis hang and touch his ass area all day.The real question is, if you are giving a man a blow job that you feel is unclean an inch away from his balls, why give him a blow job in the first place?  I took this picture of Ryan one morning because I loved the way his body and penis looked when I first woke him up.  In hindsight, this photo is a good example of how a man’s anatomy hangs naturally.  As you can see, his balls and penis rest near his ass area.  Do I consider his penis or balls “tainted (pun intended) because they touch his ass throughout the day?  Of course not!  I love it.  Thankfully Ryan is extremely self-conscious about his body and likes to keep himself shaved and clean, especially if I am about to give him oral sex.  And not just his balls and penis, but also his ass. 

Analingus Tip 2:  If you want to enjoy analingus, groom your crotch, taint, and ass area. This goes for the ladies and men.  If you want to send out your ass bat signal to your significant other, you will need to shave your ass area, specifically around your ass hole.  Although this blog is pro analingus, it is also pro grooming.   Ladies, as a bisexual woman, I am not coming near your ass hole if it isn’t shaved. 

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The Psychology and Marketing Behind Magnum Condoms

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Just because you see him packing the gold wrapper doesn’t mean he is packing the golden rod.   Magnum Condoms Magnum Condoms 

Marketing.

If by the time this blog comes out and I a missing, just know the illuminati of average sized men that all buy Magnum condoms got me.  

When Magnum condoms were first introduced to the world, I was young and told myself, “So yea, pretty much I will never have the need for those.”  Although I hadn’t had sex, I did buy a condom from a dispenser once and tried it on just to see what it was like.  Truthfully, this was probably the first time I realized I had a normal penis and told myself, “Hey, my penis must be normal because this fits fine.”  I just assumed the gold wrapper was for those chosen few.  And remember, in the 90s, all condoms came in silver or white wrappers. 

Years later, horny and wanting to masturbate differently, I went to the store and figured I would masturbate with a condom on just to see what it felt like to cum in one. As previously stated, I had tried one on, but didn’t have the perverted mindset to think of enjoying it back then. I was still a virgin so it felt kinky to me, almost like it would be a step closer to sex. At the same time, I could see how it felt to cum inside a condom while I was wearing, and how it felt afterwards if I kept stroking using the cum as lube (it felt great).  Nervously I grabbed the Magnum pack and palmed it so no one could see.  As I stood in line, I noticed the lady in front of me blushed a bit.  My heart was racing and I felt like I was announcing to everyone around my actual dick size. As it was my turn to be rung up, the cashier also blushed and had a big smile on her face.  I consider myself a pretty realistic person, not someone who sees false reactions based off how I feel.  I am a people watcher.  And I am telling you, the women that saw the box back in those days had the same exact assumption I had, if you had the Magnum, you were packing a huge dick.

Marketing.

 

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The Average Time Sex Lasts (How Long Do You Last?)

In middle school and high school the young folks sit around the locker room (or wherever it is your group of friends hung out and socialized) and talk about how long they lasted during sex with their girlfriends or pick on their friend who’s ex-girlfriend leaked the info regarding him only lasting a few minutes.  This type of talk is common place among the fellas, especially when their bodies are first introduced to large doses of testosterone called puberty.  Come to find out, in high school a lot of the boys around the locker room were full of shit.  I can still remember all the advice about how they will count sheep or go over their favorite baseball team’s roster to keep their mind off having an orgasm.  If they only knew that the chances of their girlfriend being in the 30% of women that can orgasm purely from penetration (in high school this statistic is probably 1% because none of the boys knew what the hell they were doing anyway), they’d enjoy themselves much more.  Or if they knew on average most men only last about 7 minutes before having an orgasm, they wouldn’t put so much pressure on themselves.    

It’s not exactly the most romantic statistic: Almost half of all men finish sex within two minutes, reports the New Republic by way of Dr. Harry Fisch‘s new book, The New Naked: The Ultimate Sex Education for Grown-Ups.

In an excerpt published on Nerve, Fisch notes that his patients are typically fixed on what the normal frequency of sex should be, but that quality — and therefore duration — should be of equal concern. He trots out statistics from previous sex studies to that end: that the length of the average sex act is 7.3 minutes, but an “astonishing” 43% of such acts are completed within 2 minutes.

This isn’t exactly breaking news. Alfred Kinsey determined decades ago that the majority of men ejaculated in 2 minutes or less. (Interestingly enough, a sex therapist recently defined intercourse lasting fewer than 2 minutes as premature ejaculation to the Daily Mail.)

But the New Republic points out that men, not women, are probably more likely to be most bothered by the figure. A 2004 study found that men reported a significantly longer ideal duration of intercourse than did women; both sexes had similar ideas about the ideal foreplay length.

So what’s a guy to do, other than get over it? A Swedish study offers one interesting course of action: Researchers had men who couldn’t make it more than a minute complete 12 weeks of pelvic floor exercises; their average ejaculation time rose nearly five-fold, from 31.7 seconds to 146.2 seconds, reports UPI.  Source: USAToday 

You’d be surprised if they did a study on how women actually prefer sex to be about 7 minutes.  Taking advice from a bunch of kids in a locker room on the idea of what good sex is, is never a good idea.  Ask your woman how long she would prefer you to last, so she is happy and comfortable.  It’s not how long you last, it’s how happy you and your partner are.  Some women (the 70% that can’t orgasm through penetration) are happy just seeing you pleased by their bodies, and if they can’t orgasm themselves through intercourse, the faster you cum, the better.

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