Men often view having a large member as a symbol of strength and sexual prowess. But it turns out, when it comes to keeping a woman satisfied, bigger may not be better.
Contrary to popular belief, a new study out of Kenya found that husbands with larger penises were more likely to be cheated on by their wives (shocking, we know).
For the study — published this month in PLOSOne — researchers interviewed 545 married couples in Kenya in order to better understand their relationship habits and, more specifically, to identify factors which contributed to women having extramarital affairs.
Researchers asked both partners to self-report the male’s erect penis size (they had a 15 inch ruler on hand for reference). Then, if there were differences between the estimates (which there were), they either took the average of the two or went with the estimate from the partner who was less likely to fib.
What they found was rather shocking:
“Every one inch longer penis increased the likelihood of women being involved in extra-marital partnership by almost one-and-half times,” the researchers wrote. “Women associated large penises with pain and discomfort during sex which precludes the enjoyment and sexual satisfaction that women are supposed to feel.”
In fact, one woman interviewed for the study told the researchers the following: “Some penis may be large yet my vagina is small, when he tries to insert it inside, it hurts so much that I will have to look for another man who has a smaller one [penis] and can do it in a way I can enjoy.”
According to the study, 6.2 percent of the 545 females had affairs during the six-month study. Other factors that increased the likelihood of women straying outside the marriage included domestic violence, being denied sex or denied preferred sexual position, being under age of 25 and a lack of sexual satisfaction.
Researchers focused on female infidelity specifically because of the prevalence and spread of HIV among women in the region. Researchers felt if they could identify reasons for unprotected sex, they might better prevent it.
This article is nothing new to most of us women. Men are infatuated with their penis sizes. Men also tend to admire other men with larger packages. Just judging different social networks, men with larger packages tend to be praised highly by other men. The infatuation almost seems somewhat homosexual. Men also seem to be the only ones that insult other men (who appear smaller in photos) about their penis sizes. It’s almost penis bullying. Women are usually polite and give most guys the benefit of the doubt, regardless of what their penis size. Most women just don’t care.
Wait, women may care at first or want to “try” something huge, but at the end of the day we want sex to feel good, to feel comfortable. Like men, we want to be able to relax and enjoy the moment. If it feels good, we are happy. If there is an emotional connection, it feels huge and intense inside us regardless of the “ruler” size.
We also get protective over our men and inherit their size as our own. If women are asked about their men’s penis by other men, we tend to exaggerate the size to protect our men. Does it matter to us? Nope. But since it matters so much to them, and we do not want our husband’s bullied or talked down on just because of some piece of flesh they have no control over, we exaggerate. This misconception almost seems like a vicious cycle. Some men may think us bragging about larger penises is because we truly do love large dicks, but most of the time it’s to protect our lovers from scrutiny. Even replying that your lover is average tends to get the comment, “Well I am well above average babe, I can please you like he never could.”
Some men are shallow and will never understand this. Men with larger penises tend to think just showing or sending a picture of their cock will sweep women off their feet and magically make them want to be unfaithful. It’s probably that shallowness that keeps the women in the article above unfaithful to them.
For me this could mean a few things. Since the penis size was more of the woman’s perspective, it’s very possible some of the women exaggerated about their husband’s penis size because it meant something to them. For them, to have a husband with a larger penis was a trophy. Because the penis size is important to them, sex seems to be more important as well. This leads them to be a bit more promiscuous.
Or the women were being completely honest and guys with larger penises do not satisfy them so they look for satisfaction elsewhere. The reasons could be physical or mental. A man with a smaller package tries harder. He also may not rely on his sexual prowess to win a woman’s loyalty, but instead uses his personality.
Original article reported by Taryn Hillin of The Huffington Post.